Top 10 Tips to Date Safely Online

Stay safe online

Always exercise caution in online relationships. It’s important to remember that an online dating site is in fact a public site.

After all if you’re going to an online dating service with the hopes of meeting Mr. or Ms. Right you should be aware of the illicit activity that can and does occur. These dangers of online dating sites include but are not limited to: fraud, privacy and security, stalking, identity theft, exposure to offensive material and scamming.

Stalking is a problem both offline and online but it can be compounded by an online dating site if an individual becomes cyber stalked or harassed by someone they initially thought was going to turn out to be a romantic partner, possible life partner or soul mate.

Online dating services provide some measure of control by pre-screening or 'vetting' the members who sign up. These services also advise all clients and members not to meet someone for the first time in a private place. Couples should meet in controlled, public situations. When the online dating service advises this, it means that the service is aware that some members may misrepresent themselves, their intentions and their history. Safety first is a mantra that anyone who considers dating online needs to remember.

10 ways you can protect your privacy and safety dating online.

1. Choose a Secure Password
Once you choose your appropriate mature dating site, choose a secured password. It is best to use an alpha numeric or split up the words of your password. This is to avoid criminals hacking your account with the common dictionary site that automatically tries every word from the dictionary to get hold of your password. But be sure that it is not absurd and you are able to remember it. “the777man808” is better than “theman”

2. Name Alias
First of all, always use an alias, as opposed to your real name when writing your profile, send emails within the system or participating in a chat room. Never reveal your real last name or address to a stranger. Keep in mind, too, that employees of these sites never come online and ask for that kind of information!

3. No Personal Details
Don’t say anything in your profile that you’re not comfortable having potentially thousands of people read. Keep your anonymity. In all likelihood, your profile will probably only be read by a few hundred people at the most, but even so you want to keep to what you’re comfortable with. And you want to be careful not to give too many clues to your personal information. Here are some of the things to avoid in your profile for the sake of security:

  1. Your address
  2. Where you Work
  3. Your telephone number
  4. Your date of birth
  5. Your full name
  6. A personal, traceable email address

4. Tel Numbers
If you do exchange telephone numbers with a stranger, try to use a cell phone. If you are calling a stranger for the first time and have no idea what the result of the conversation will be, block your number before you call.

5. Avoid Gold Diggers
Many overseas women run scams against men. They pretend to get to know and like you and once you fall for them they start asking you for money. Thousands of men have been sucked into this scam, wiring money to a girl they never met and never hearing from her again (or hearing from her asking more money). If the person you are communicating with asks you for money, watch out.

6. Personal Email Addresses
Some people will email you instantly asking for your email address and as soon as you give it, you are inundated with dating spam while never hearing from that person again. Set up a free Email address just for dating – these are widely available from providers such as Google and Yahoo.

7. Listen to your gut feeling
If something doesn't seem right about the person you are communicating with then this may be an indication that you should move on. Your instincts are your best people reading tools. Follow your instincts and they will rightly how to advance forward. . If something makes you feel uncomfortable pull back for the sake of your own peace of mind and security.

8. Set up an anonymous email account.
When you're ready to communicate with someone outside of the security of the online dating service you are using, you may want to consider using an anonymous email account from a service like Google, Yahoo, or Hotmail. Before starting the online dating process, sign up for a new email address from one of these services that you use only for online dating. Be sure to change your account information to not give out your full name. Doing this helps protect your privacy more as it's fairly easy to get information on a person based on their actual email address that they've used for years. This is the safest way to correspond with potential dates if the dating site you are on does not provide a secure, anonymous site with an inter-email message system that protects your identity.

9. Control the Information Flow
When online or responding to emails, don't let yourself be pressured by anyone into revealing anymore about your life than you care to. Decide on how much information you will reveal to prospective partners, and don't reveal any more until you are confident that you can trust the person. Don't let anyone rush you into a face-to-face meeting if you don't feel ready for it. Take your time online and get to know the person.

10. Don’t Give Out Financial Details
Do not ever disclose your financial details to anyone even if you had met him/her physically once or twice. You need to be very cautious to avoid the risk factors involved in it.

People often believe online dating is safe because using the Internet creates a barrier of anonymity between couples until they want to remove it. Unfortunately, savvy Internet users can hack sites, trace back IP addresses and in some cases, use slips of personal data to locate a person in real life whether they wanted to be located or not. The shroud of anonymity flows in both directions, a person can appear to be one thing online and turn out to be something completely different in real life. Just exchanging a few emails and casual comments in instant messages does not guarantee insight into a person.

Now  I am indeed a man who is blessed with the ability to exist according to my own design; devoid of distrust and distraction, however there are unfortunately those  narcissistic serial cyber dating parasites who are feasting the eyes at that PC glass wall which separates you and all the unaccountable randomness of reality with a gallon of Ben & Jerry's choc-chip-cookie-dough in one hand and a Ch√Ęteau Margaux in the other, confident that if you find a special person there's actually no danger, because you have no intentions of meeting them.

Yes going on-line gives you complete control because there's NO cyber footprint so you're free to be any body/age/species, with NO obligation to return calls/emails/texts, and NO remorse to prod/poke/provoke human emotions while embarking on a nihilistic journey through the darkness of cyberspace. Stealthing through this subculture you carpet bomb potential suitors with whimsical cyber flirts, & grown men pathetically eager to jockey/jostle/peacock or lie profusely just to dominate male pecking order.

Keep in mind that a person can say whatever he/she wants in a profile and several tell outright or little white lies in the things they say. Some lie about appearance, some lie about marital status, and some lie about intentions. Always be smart, alert, and listen to your instincts. It's very much a possibility that the person you are destined to be with is just an email away. But never let your guard down when searching for that destiny!