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My Profile Description - what can I write about?
Reality check... Men like things short and sweet. We tend to have relatively short attention spans. Women on the other hand.... Love details! Look we’ve all listened to women talking on the phone, swapping life stories in absolute detail. They love it, crave it, need it, adore it. So give them material! You are trying to paint them a picture of your life, which you can’t do that in 2 paragraphs. So it’s important to try and write a profile that is detailed enough to tell them about you, but short enough to leave them yearning for more.
The magic number
For an ideal profile it has to be between 350 - 450 quality words, with approximately 300 words about yourself and another 150 words depicting the kind of person you are seeking. Longer than this, your profile will appear bragging and cause information overload on the potential dates. Shorter than this, it doesn’t reveal enough about yourself and make you appear indifferent.
You can then choose several topics ranging from:
- Do you have hobbies?
- What do you enjoy doing? What brings joy to your life?
- Do you have a close relationship with your extended family?
- What do you value most in your life?
- Also, people are intrigued by details.
- What are your favorite songs?
- What is your favorite form of art?
- What is your favorite thing to do on a Saturday night when you are all by yourself?
- What is your favorite thing to do on a date?
- Talk about your social life.
By doing this, you give people a snap-shot of who you are, what makes you happy and what is most important to you. Since the average reader tends to scan at first, it’s vitally important they don’t become overall intimidated or bored with big blocks of text. Therefore by giving the various topics about 4-6 good sentences, will then usually form the basis of a very entertaining story to illustrate you. Remember, you want to hit on at least 5 topics that she cares about. Each one needs to be illustrated in depth using examples or stories (not just adjectives!) This takes time and a bit of thought, but it will be well worth it.
On a final note remember you’re betting off saying what you want to say in about half the space that they give you to say it. You don’t have to tell your life story, just the bullet points. There’s time to tell more once you’ve caught someone’s attention. For now you must come across as appealing enough to get that wink or e-mail. Also you don’t have to reinvent the wheel when you are writing essays. If you’re really struggling to find suitable material for your profile, then simply browse ads written by other members of the same dating service to give you some good ideas. Of course copying the ads word for word would be silly, you simply want to write an essays that apply uniquely to you.