Multiple Choice Matching

Multple Choice

Dating sites know how much people hate filing out tons of forms and a lot of them try to simplify the process by making you questions arid providing tick boxes for things like interests, hobbies etc. These can be very useful but also irritating. The amount of such questions you will be asked depend on the site you are using.

When answering the questions be as honest as possible. It’s usually better to tell the truth from the beginning, as most lies are exposed very early on. The questions people are most likely to lie about are age, body type and marital status so we’ll look at those in more detail.

Although it’s generally good to be honest, this is the one exception where sometimes in ok to lie. This is particularly true for women and more so if you are sure the age groups in the search criteria results are not suitable for you. Women who look younger than their age are at a distinct disadvantage online, where people define their search by specific numbers. If you are the sort of person who always gets surprised looks when you reveal your age you may want to consider lowering your age slightly in order to appear in more searches. This is especially important it you are a woman over 40 or fall just outside a specified age group. Whatever you do, if you change your age make sure you refer to it in your description section and explain why you did it.  You don’t want to lead people on for too long, or they will get angry.

If you are used to social networking sites such as Facebook etc., you may be tempted to sign up with a joke age such as 99 or 100. On dating sites, this is a very bad idea, as it would mean you hardly show up in any results. Either use your real age or amend slightly as explained above.

Body Type
Many people are tempted to lie about this, especially if they are a bit overweight and are working hard trying to lose the extra pounds.

Of course, any lies about personal appearance would be quickly exposed on the 1st date - which is the event you are working towards. Be truthful about your appearance, and also use the description area too if you want to let people know you are working out. Once you’ve lost the extra pounds, you can change your profile to match.

Marital Status
If you are separated, say that you are separated rather than divorced. If the site that you are using doesn’t allow that as a caption, use divorced and explain the situation in the profile. Nothing annoys people more than being lied to about someone’s marital status. As we all know, there are plenty of people out there who are married and choose to cheat on their spouses and there are some dating sites out there that cater specifically for married / in relationship people who wish to cheat. There are also sites for swingers and those open marriages/relationships who are open to the concept of consensual extra -marital sex.

Must sites will let you opt out of answering questions that you don’t feel comfortable answering. If you don’t want to answer something and can’t opt out, choose a false answer, but make sure you mention that in your description. The only exceptions to this are the age question (where choosing a fake age would be a bad idea and the postcode. This is because most people search by age and distance and you want potential partners to be able to find you.
You can generally get around limiting multiple choice questions or tick boxes by picking the closest answer and clarifying things in your description.

Lists of interests etc. often have a format you need to conform to, but it is not always clear what that format is. Some expect you to input words or phrases separated by commas and get confused if you don’t, making everything you’ve’ written look weird. Always check your profile when you have finished, to make sure’ everything is as it should be.

The more legitimate, reputable sites will offer detailed, multiple choice type profile-builders that are relatively quick and painless to get through, although one very popular and pricey site that claims "the most marriages per match" has an exhaustive profile-builder that takes a good three hours to complete. Even with all that, you're not finished without including that inevitable part of your profile where you describe yourself in your own words.