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Choosing an Attractive On-line Identity (Username or Profile)
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Different dating services call them handles, nicknames or just usernames, but they all mean the same thing. Your username is the identity you project to the world of online dating sites and the secret to a great username is to not make a bad one!
A lot of people don't think the screen name is important. It really is. Your screen name, your tagline, and a thumbnail picture are all going to combine to give other members their first impression of you. Once the first impression is made, you can't go back in time and change it, and simply put, it could make the difference between potential cyber-suitors clicking on your profile name and viewing your ad or moving on to the next one – trust me.
Remember - you are trying to create the impression that you are a confident, social, fun, and passionate individual that is not obviously trying to convey these characteristics. You want to do your very best to make as much of an impact on your first impression as you can. Simply put, with your screen name you are trying to build interest.
When it comes to your profile name you should choose something that is:
- Relatively short
- Preferably easy to pronounce
- Attention grabbing
However coming up with a great of even a good screen name requires thought to serve as your online identity is not that easy.
Avoid using your full name. You could use your first name with some numbers after it. Something that shows you're romantic or have a sense of humor would work if these are the qualities you possess and want to project.
A common mistake is trying too hard to sound sexy and instead just sounding like the kind of person who frequents sex chat rooms. It is best to avoid overtly sexual connotations or racy language in your username and online profile as it may attract the wrong kind of people, oh unless you are registering with a specialist introduction site or only looking for sexual liaisons.
Note: guys anything that involves reference to size, muscles or bad behavior is usually a turn off and for women reference to shape or even hair color may lead to generalizations and assumptions which you may prefer to avoid. If you are looking for serious dates with the possibility of long term relationship, this may turn off prospective partners. If you decide to use a suggestive handle, and especially if you don’t, be careful that you don’t unintentionally create a double entendre.
Another important tip is to avoid using negative feelings or state of mind like "depressed" or "lonely" in your username. Such names imply that you are carrying some heavy emotional baggage and will not attract fun loving and lively individuals.
Another great way of showing your personality through your online dating username is to include some personal information in a word or two. You can incorporate your hobby or interest in an adorable manner to come up with a unique yet attractive username like "Deep Sea Diva Jane" or "Risky Racer Aaron". Incorporating your hobby in your profile name will help you attract dates that have similar interests.
It is advisable to choose a screen name that is NOT related to your real name or e-mail address in the interest of Anonymity . You must avoid at all costs including personal information like your exact date of birth or your house number in your online dating username. Dubious characters are always looking to collate such personal information and then misusing the identity of hapless victims.
Another way to make it meaningful Is to create a handle that contains a slightly obscure reference or Inside joke. For example, "Feathers Mc Graw" could be a handle for someone who loves the Wallace arid Grommet animated films. People who have seen ‘The Wrong Trousers’ the film in which this character appears, would get the reference immediately. A side benefit to choosing a handle this way is that it can often start a conversation when people ask you what your handle refers to.
Therefore if you want a great online dating user name which sets you apart from the rest of the crowd, just follow these surefire tips:
Spend time viewing other user names and see which ones appeal to you and which do not. Don’t just look of profiles of your gender, look at your opposite gender too and see what makes you want to read more. Research what looks good and what doesn’t. Find out what you like and don’t like. Emulate the ones you like.. This will give you ideas for what works and what doesn’t.
SHORT AND SWEET:
Keep your name as short as possible. Find out the maximum visible length allowed. Some online dating sites will allow a user name to be perhaps fifteen characters, but they may only display the first twelve.
WHO AM I:
Tell people something about yourself? Your screen name is a small window into your soul. Tell people who you are, what you love, what ideals you hold dear, what your interests are. If you are passionate about golf, try something like “Golf Diva”
IF YOU FIRST DON’T SUCCEED:
If your user name is already taken, keep trying. Let’s say you want “Golf Diva”, but someone beat you to it. Don’t give up. Try a variation such as “Golf Lover”, “Diva Of Golf”, “Golfer Diva”, or “Golfing Diva”.
CREATIVE AND / OR HUMOROUS:
You want to make your user name as unique and creative as possible. Everyone likes wit. If you can find a way to work humour into your user name, go for it! Funny screen names definitely work.
Don’t be cryptic. Avoid names such as “jbaaasbw” or “1144254”. Rather, try to choose a name that means something, and that people can remember. That way, when people are doing a search, you can be easily located.
IT JUST DOESN’T ADD UP:
Don’t add numbers after your name. It is too easy to confuse “Hank1123” with “Hank1223”, or to type numbers incorrectly. So, instead of looking up “Hank1123”, they may accidentally look up “Hank1223”. “Hank1123” may have just missed the love of his life due to selecting a generic numbered name.
WHAT’S THE CAPITAL OF?
Use both upper and lower case for ease of reading. Capitalize the first character of each word, so the person reading your name can easily figure out the meaning of your name. There is no sense having a catchy phrase for your user name if people loose patience trying to figure out the meaning. You only have a few seconds to grab the person’s attention before they look at the next user name. Make your seconds count. So instead of “lovetolaugh”, try “LoveToLaugh”.
BE POSITIVE AND HAPPY:
You always want to portray yourself as a positive, happy person that men or women will love to be around. Negativity, rudeness and depression do not entice people. “LoveToLaugh” is a great upbeat user name which lets people know you are fun to be around and enjoy a good joke.
You always want to portray yourself as a confident person that has something to offer people. But please do not brag. Avoid screen names such as “Meek Geek” which are self-deprecating.
When women scroll through profiles the username is on of the the first things they see. Yes I know you are limited to how much you can portray in the 15 characters or so provided ... so make it memorable experience for them. Be different, make it interesting, intriguing, and above all else stand out from the crowd!